My mother-in-law lived with me for around 11 months. I took her to her doctors appointments and helped her with her personal hygene when it became necesary. When she was hospitalized and there was no durable power of attorney or living will already in place the hospital recommended doing so as soon as possible. None of her 4 children wanted to or would step up and make these decisions or be appointed DPOA. So I did. Once she was out of the hospital and placed into a sklilled nursing facility her daughter became demanding and paranoid. By this time my mother-in-law was in active congestive heart failure and her dementia had progressed. My sister-in-law went to the facility, while I was at work, with her sister-in-law and a notary. She convinced the social worker that my mother-in-law was alert, oriented and competant enough to change her DPOA to her sister-in-law. Someone my mother-in-law does not even like. I went to the nursing home ever day and physically looked my mother-in-law over, changed her, bathed her, and helped her eat. My sister-in-law goes there 2-3 times a week durring the day to see if her clothes are clean and not wrinkled. I really feel sorry for my mother-in-law, and my sister-in-law for showing her true colors and how selfish she is. I just wish I knew where to turn to report this injustice.

Anonymous
IMPERIAL, MO